We went to a therapy session focused exclusively on our parenting. It sounds a bit over the top to someone like me, who grew up poor and in so much dysfunction that I can only laugh about it now (that I have dealt with it in individual therapy). But, we are considering expanding our family and birthing some other goals. Two decisions that will be financially, emotionally, and temporally taxing. There are things that I worry about with my kids, that I don’t know if are minor or major or could become worse if we add more to our already complex life. Since my own childhood is not a good gauge or example, we decided to get an outside professional opinion.
I keep thinking what’s the point of it, all of this intentional hustle. All of this building and creating if the cost ends up being my babies or my marriage or myself. It’s something I’m conscious of and careful about.
It felt so good to sit with a therapist and voice them, those things we’ve been half whispering about after their bedtime and praying about during our reflection time. I don’t know where this parenting journey will lead us, but I recommend that parents don’t worry alone and in silence, speak to someone that won’t dismiss or diminish your worries or fears.
So I left that room and that couch with some affirmations and some recommendations. I left feeling a little less worried, a little more aware, and a little more equipped to raise these babies to be healthy and whole.
What did you say?