I told my husband this week: “now that we have a king-sized bed, please stay on your side of the bed and stop cuddling with me in the middle of the night when you know I have to get up early in the morning because it makes me hot and disturbs my sleep cycle.”
I cut him deep, and I could tell he felt some kind of way about my request… But I was I starting to resent watching him sleep so soundly after I crawled out from under his heavy arm and leg to tip toe around the bedroom trying not to wake him up.
The longer I’m a mother and wife the more I enjoy the times when someone is not touching me. They don’t warn you how much your husband and kids will disrespect your personal space before you sign up for them.
I shared my pain on instagram and so many women came through and commented that they’re glad they weren’t the only ones suffering in silence
“Ahahaaaa and people think I’m selfish when i say my pre-marriage rules will include sleeping in my own bedroom by myself a couple times a week. At a minimum having my own blanket.”
“Omg!!! This is 100. Sounds like my son and I. First of all he violates my space by constantly sleeping in MY king size bed when he has his own room. Second, he sleeps right under me. Third, I am constantly telling him to give me some personal space. It is not WRONG to not want to be touched constantly. I have to have this talk with him all the time.”
“I have this same issue. It takes me so long to fall asleep and STAY there and the minute my husband puts his hot body near me I can feel myself waking up and I’m PISSED about it. I had to explain to mine that by 6pm I am touched out and to please refrain from any immediate cuddling until I initiate because I need to BREATHE. My son is toucher so he has a harder time with this.”
“SAME! My boyfriend is learning that I truly hate being hot while sleeping and while we can cuddle for a moment before falling asleep I’m done after that.”
A Dude: “The unmitigated gall! Lmfao my wife has the same complaint. But the ironic question is: do you use him as a heater to warm your feet?” My Reply: “Maybe”
“Omg YES!! 100%! We have a king size and I get like 10 inches of it. And yes… why does everyone in the family get to sleep soundly except for the mom?! Why can’t I go a whole day without being groped and grabbed???”
“My husband is always so damn hot (as in body temperature) and wants to touch me. We too have a king size bed and I gave him the same exact speech months ago and well nothing has changed. Mind you out mattress is a gel cooler and as soon as he invades my side it just gets worse. I’ve given up.”
“No truer words … I’m not married any more but kids are like octopuses (I have 4!) and I remember telling my now ex that we could cuddle to fall asleep and when we wake up? But not during the night. TOO HOT and I need my space.”
There is so much beauty in a committed relationship and children but I’ve also come to deeply respect women who say “nawl, that life is not for me…”
What did you say?